Resolution
“Now is the time to clear and resolve your relationships with your family of origin.
Your soul chose to enter your body, and be raised in your family, for its own growth.
Accept its choice; do anything you can to learn from the life lessons that resulted.
Understand that you can heal on all levels of your being, and transcend your past.
Envision your truth, and who you want to be, claiming that true self daily.
Your resolution of family patterns, with honesty and integrity, brings freedom for all.”
— Miriam’s Relationship Guides
This is the 2nd message from my Relationship Guides. They want to help you write a new story about your upbringing that reflects the truth of who you are, as well as what you have learned from your family of origin.
“Now is the time to clear and resolve your relationships with your family of origin.”
With the holiday season upon us, you may be dreading the time you spend with your parents and siblings. See if you can keep the above statement in mind as you go through the Thanksgiving and December holidays. Open to the idea that whatever blocks, emotions and conflicts between you and the others in your family can be washed away easily. Let go of who is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’, and who did what to whom. Set the intention to move beyond old habits and patterns that divide you. Instead, choose to focus on what you have in common. How can you co-exist with the others in your family, so that all can grow and learn? What can you appreciate about each person in your family? What can you laugh about with each person? Imagine that you can actually clear and resolve these relationships from the past. How does that feel when you see it clearly in your mind?
“Your soul chose to enter your body, and be raised in your family, for its own growth.”
Your soul is a part of you that continues to have consciousness after your body dies. It sees and experiences everything you do in your life, and learns from your choices. In between bodies it processes your life, assesses its own expansion in consciousness from that life, and determines what needs to be learned the next time a body is chosen. It may have chosen this current body and family because behaviors of your parents can help you understand something about yourself. It may have chosen it because a particular person in the family is there to help you grow. You might be in this body because your soul wanted to live in a particular environment or cultural tradition. Your soul has numerous reasons for being in this body, and those reasons may only be revealed after years of inner ‘soul searching’, if at all.
“Accept its choice; do anything you can to learn from the life lessons that resulted.”
The challenge for us as personalities is to trust that there was a reason for the traumas and dramas of our past. Whether illness, abuse, accidents, or neglect, you can connect with your soul to see the bigger picture of your life. You can learn more about yourself through your past, witnessing how you changed in response to those triggers. You can remember what you liked or disliked about a person, a situation, or an experience. You can support your inner children and help them to feel loved and appreciated even if they didn’t feel that back then. You can see with more clarity what people did and how you felt when they did whatever it was. If your soul’s goal was to learn, what have you learned? What do you still need to learn?
“Understand that you can heal on all levels of your being, and transcend your past.”
Time is irrelevant when you choose to heal. By choosing to face your memories of the past instead of hiding from them, you will realize that the avoidance of them took more energy than actually facing them. When you decide to learn from your life’s experiences, you can release blocked energy in your body and mind that has resulted in physical symptoms, emotional patterns, and false beliefs about yourself and others. Your choice to grow in awareness, understanding, and consciousness raises you above the patterns of the past so that you can become a new you.
“Envision your truth, and who you want to be, claiming that true self daily.”
So who are you, really? What is true about you? What feels real, and completely ‘you’? Are you able to live from that place of ‘youness’? Can you be ‘you’ with others, or with particular others? Are there certain qualities you want to express in your life, not just with a few close friends, but with everyone? You might want to make a list of what you know about yourself that feels true and pure, those soul aspects. What might you be able to add to that list, with conscious attention and focus? What actions and word choices might you need to change when interacting with others? What self-talk can you change, so that your inner words to yourself reflect your appreciation and support of your body, your inner children, and your soul? Start each day with some images, intentions, and affirmations about yourself, and how you choose to relate in your interactions with others. Affirm that you are becoming more truly ‘you’ with every day.
“Your resolution of family patterns, with honesty and integrity, brings freedom for all.”
As you become yourself more clearly, you will be able to witness others in your family of origin with more clarity as well. Be honest with yourself, and show integrity in your conversations and actions with them. Treat them as you would like to be treated, with respect, acceptance, and compassion. They may withdraw for awhile, trying to figure out what game you are playing now; or they may try to draw you back into old patterns of conflict. If you persist in being clearly ‘you’, with your soul’s truth infusing your personality self, the old barriers and blockages will be released between you and your family. Imagine how freeing that will be!
